I wanna try to help this guy as much as we possibly can't. I don't know that we're going to be able to put the question up on FaceBook part of his email on and on FaceBook and a lot of supporters like good luck dude. This that she kind of sort of directed EU Katie being the woman on the -- -- -- -- they did just this is he's a guy and early twenties say he's twenty actually is about to come out. -- -- into his family and friends home options being geared more toward us and his girlfriend I'll. His girlfriend of almost two years he says he knows what he's gonna say to his family and friends he has no idea what to say it was girlfriend. -- it's tricky because they recently took their relationship to the next level. It was both of their first times. He says he knows especially was for her but he also knows that it was a real wake up call for Hampshire. So he kind of sort of want to -- she wants to know any kind of -- and UK what can you say to a girlfriend and the relationship come in a closet and not crash trying to process. I mean quite. And he's not doing this I go boo who poor me like he is trying to be as. Sensitive being like a really thoughtful person. Which is actually very commendable considering the courage it takes to come out your family and the world and the fact that he's. Being considerate of someone else's feelings is actually pretty wonderful. I mean if you don't have any thoughts to them I saw it -- as the majority of people of -- FaceBook said. You should -- sooner you sure you know this is insane she's gonna hate you no matter why I love people who do that when you when you turn that -- for help and advice may go well you should -- okay and well in in the fantasy world you I was at a time machine but a -- almost more than not -- almost everyone started their comment was -- just be honest. Now -- but like if you need anything to hear thoughts going Carlo on FaceBook said. Don't just he's just a love of everything don't let her think she turned you gay it's already going to be humiliating for her at least in Iran head. I would however say something along lines of how the last two years have been a year -- discovery exploration and unfortunately you realize he's headed into a different direction. Yeah I mean she just now it's the same direction men. Or or she said or she wants to be complete 300 jerk she's like she can be leg he'd like so we have something in common we both like guys the guys are real. I can -- without. -- she -- have a good sense of humor Sabatini here the girl on the situation. How do you want this news to come here. I know everybody says honesty is the best policy obviously I don't live my life. Nobody really means nothing really pretty -- she was that a line column if this storm beaten. And this is they relationship I'd been for two years I have lost my virginity -- person. I think I don't think I would want to processing the fact that I am being broken up with. Even the fact that my boyfriend is actually gay I think I want to I want to break up with me. Because he is going to be in the relationship anymore -- -- cruel about it. And then like months down the road once I had processed the break up then tell me. It's because your day let me process that. Whole whole lot. Can I throw something out there are. If you take somebody's virginity and then break up with them immediately afterwards regardless of what you sexual orientation is urinate hole. And a real good like no matter he'd take big gaping out of bed. I just took my girlfriends virginity and I'm about to break up with her okay you probably. Shouldn't do that Phillies and limp along on this relationship per. I'm not the time may be among third -- says that she doesn't feel thank you -- I want and I really -- late senator herself. Oh -- a good decade of therapy sessions like she thinks she's no good and everything unfortunately for him losing your virginity is kind of a big deal for people if it was like going to the movies and she's like I want you go to -- romantic movies and finally he gave and then finally went oh my god when you took me there. I realized I just like comedies like if that would be a much easier thing to -- elected but because of the fact that it was and he didn't say specifically be site. Having sex with her was at the wake up call like wow I think I need you need to and that's against the association I've always wanted to show flat wake up call. -- I think I think are actually telling her that your game is gonna soft and all of that. I actually think you got to make it easier there is no that's not is not because she did anything in the sun is right he's right. I really never are it's it's a different time now where different people the people who think the you can turn someone Gary. If if I think telling her that your gay is gonna make it all easier Durbin harsh breakups were I considered tell them that I'm Gary. Wait till like may -- stop cry yeah. You are seeing in the you want her Falwell -- get I know -- and you give me daddy you -- dollars and sleeping with men and -- if you don't lie a lie about -- and I. Oh not sleep with them date them I just I just thought our I just solid condescending here at. Be honesty think this would work I think I came up with a solution but I guess not that many times and I've been wrong correct if you say look -- I wanna have a real talk with you we recently did something that I know emotionally was amazing for most of us it was this big emotional thing we took this huge step together. And then be a little self deprecating -- Physically though I probably didn't deliver like most -- -- And laughing matter I guess I wasn't as good as -- -- to tell us and then he tells us he's not gonna know any and then and then he goes. I think I know why that was one of the most amazing life changing experience is forming and it made me realize something now. I'm gay Peta says like you know I it doesn't take away from the emotional. Connection we had. That's true that's true now I know how many guys are sort of changing my mind -- -- and first my first holidays and was. Just break up with me then drop the gay bomb on me later. Gave bombed by the way means how much planner yeah -- -- on -- -- yeah. But maybe you're right maybe it actually kind of but it's hard for her no matter why. Yeah I mean she'll she'll be final until we're saying just don't -- break -- and then just shall find -- no that's not a good way and I'll you don't wanna find out as the -- -- I'm and maybe even show up in the end. I hassles chaps like you're going to take pride parade all them all like it's like a plan to gay stereotype again and I mean share. I want to say that it's is stereotype that that's what happens during the well I even got that I have yeah Brian commission check yet so I think maybe that's not a bad approach Coke and the that's a -- approach I'm I don't even need the same thing for her to feel like. Moon. Saying. And then when you know hey Tom I'll show myself out. Had a little look at. The wake up call -- let us seven yeah yeah and.