Who is more father a man who married in sheets or the woman is she single. But New Year's -- should -- who's more fall to the other two opens here the single woman who knows guys married and still goes forward with with a married man. Who did the cheating on his wife get this is like closed Umbria. Yeah because we found out recently that friends of ours -- this happened. They were married the guy cheated on his wife with a single girl. But according to. Little more of the story. She knew full well that he was married and she kind of pursued him a little -- OK okay. So this of course and started a conversation. Amongst the wives who or just bad mouthing the guy left him right and then. I spoke up and said something somewhat defending the guy OK not defending him for what happened but defending him for saying. He is he really a 100% to blame in this situation I -- and then it turned until well I. I actually some people agree with me at the table may switched there at their side and stuff in and yeah. It was an interesting discussion I thought why not to have it with everybody in Allen and say who's really at at fault here. They Sylvia. Yet you know the -- who's at fault and that are as you know on that about seeing that I do you own and not -- -- Okay thank you are sponsored a jam by the way we but that's about FaceBook -- -- us. And I'd say the majority feel like Sylvia. That it's his fault except for a few here Tiffany put on FaceBook. The woman's fault she broke the girl code with the girl coach Miguel computer and another -- man yeah. It's always my tires discount. And I don't think they know yeah yeah and it really doesn't know why it's relevant today as -- -- our thanks to pay for that could tell us. Of course it's about. -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- can begin big -- of Manhattan ruled them discovers a September's -- -- it's no fun I mean I would agree with everybody who's saying it is his fault because she does nothing to lose. We don't get me wrong winning can be predators. I looked absolutely say that is true. But she is nothing to -- -- scenario he is the only person has something to lose and that's his BMI. Then I was hidden and that makes it more obvious that you agree with meat and not and that she has more Brooke is. If she had nothing to lose then why would then then then that makes her worse for doing this and targeting somebody who has everything to lose. I feel like if you -- I mean who is allowing himself to be in that situation. Is sort of the can smell it on a guy if there's a guy who wants to stray big give off phone Biden you consent set. So he -- put something out there and she just realized it. And moves forward I'd say in this situation I don't think it might -- if I went out and I -- up with a single woman who knew I was married. So highly unlikely that -- -- Lazio. If you're happy and who judges GO. The judge in this relationship is my wife -- saying guess what. She's gonna be angry at Becker -- which is gonna blame me a 100% total so there's other -- -- friends my judge airmen did the blame is being pointed at me regardless of if I don't think she kissed him on -- me and I couldn't stop -- I -- walked away or should obamas how that situation so is my fault it's a married asphalt. Let them but to make the point of the Katie is making in in the depends what you just said. That's. If you're the guy in your putting let's say that the guy who's putting out the -- bill like he's unhappy in his marriage or -- And unhappy but there are they willing -- far he's the he's a wounded fish in the ocean means flopping around a guy even now -- -- re -- you're saying like listened. If you're given the Bible -- sharks shark and they're just gonna come along that made the now and say what I'm saying is if there is a guy who is -- -- The girls probably not gonna go for that guy she's gonna go over the guy that she knows. Want to already and just is too chicken. To make the first milk doesn't necessarily make him the bad guy though if if he has those spots in his head and a girl takes advantage out of them got it's it's like it's like he. There is -- Man he might have been pending any scrub tops that's it is the result -- Monica. Are you gonna hold for awhile and AA Gavin you disagree you say it's his fault tell -- specifically -- to this point. Here's why I am a wife who hasn't been -- at all on several occasions. Yeah I agree you can now I'm all that but at the same time. I I haven't I get it the girl she knew Bob Bob Bob it doesn't matter at the end of the day of the girl had no commitment has been dead. He made about he said I honor you I carry huge blow -- you're part. Hey you don't know what they send their -- writing and hey I believe I got away and their wedding bells went something like this Woolsey were this. Not a bad. I mean how much until my dad who. -- your -- not understand. That. I think there is such a harmonica another element to -- switches. Who knows what that guy said -- that girl I doubt he approached the situation like. Listen I'm very happily married indefinitely never wanna have sex of any woman that is -- my wife she is are more likely -- he was like. My wife universally does this mean were so unhappy I don't think this is gonna last so she probably thought she is getting into a situation with a guy that. Wasn't being treated well in the first place. And what is she gonna say outside of that rare I want to be with a married -- I don't want commitment that does a very really happen with women and my sand well I I would sustained by the and we don't they got a call from Robin -- Robin good morning. What are Robin you say it's the single woman who knew the guy was -- it's her fault. Why. Most -- ill and still persecuted. Because if that happened to me so and I ended up in divorce so yeah it's her fault that she yield. Just as you know like I just think that you women who've had this happen both feel different -- and here's here's I'm wondering because like I know criminals are out there. But unless they commit a crime. I can't be blamed really I know bad things are out there just did you she knew doesn't make her the bad persons are accorded her -- in this. Well yeah because we were married for twenty years. And everybody else -- knew and knew we were married and she knew it. Stories of this woman hadn't come into the picture your husband would've never cheat at. And it hurt me now OK so can you really blame her he's -- cheat are. I wanna throw those out there we got a text in this is not directed you I don't think. It says that after twenty years a woman who gets you know like that probably knew was coming could've done something to stop it. Okay Brad is the best thing and I'm just saying to that person. Do you say -- I was gonna cheat no matter why do you take some of the I -- yourself a little bit vulnerable to. I didn't see telling. Because fees for up and down he wouldn't do it yet we have kids we have a child with special needs. And I didn't -- he do it. I'm okay thank you thank you for -- it and again I'm not saying that nobody is -- -- it's all all parents -- OK but you think she should shoulder more of that I think didn't I think did the women that were at the dinner table that I was that. Should have been more mad at the woman who was predatory first so. You guys are stupid let's -- and women like men are stupid you hate when women say that I haven and they say about it -- -- We all agree that there should I obviously for this we said he can't take sides but okay. It's partially his fault partially her -- mostly his fault but she should do something to make up for like -- a -- is Adam Housley has to. I'm sad. I think I'm -- the CA because that's you know you cause every and help move the map. Why doesn't it.